When we reach a certain age in life, we know what we like in the bedroom or outside or wherever we want to do it. Gone are the days for just settling for someone terrible at sex.

Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy

There is no shame in having needs or knowing exactly what you want to have a healthy, exciting love life. Over the years, we have all been there when we have made the wrong choices and ended up in bed with the wrong person at one point in our lives or when too much drink has been involved.

You can think you have met a good match, and then when it comes down to it, they have put you off in the bedroom for so many reasons, lousy hygiene, gone at you like a road drill with no foreplay what so ever or rammed there tongue so far down your throat you nearly suffocate.

It’s all about the kiss; usually, if you are an excellent kisser, then the sex will be good. Personal grooming is a must, men what women all groomed, but what about what we want. Nose hair, ear hair and kind of hair is just not appealing for me. I don’t want to be wiping dribble off my face either after a kiss; that’s just a no for me.

We are all attracted to individuals, from looks to smells to instant attraction. Academic research has proven that women are most attracted by how eye contact with a man makes them “feel”. If you learn how to use body language and communication properly, you can trigger an emotional response.

We all have our preferences for our likes and dislikes. Being comfortable with your body to tell someone exactly what you want and need is when you reach another level of not even wasting your time in life.

You need to embrace your inner confidence fully; why should you settle for a crappy shag where it’s all one-sided and it is all about their needs? Find someone on your level, making love with someone who knows what they are doing.

Always remind yourself what you want and find that in a partner; if a person doesn’t have the requirements you are looking for, then don’t try and build a relationship with them because this will lead to the same kind of patterns of past relationships.

There is nothing wrong with finding that partner with who you want to have consistently good sex. Someone who you respect and someone who respects you. Life as a single person offers many rewards, such a being free to pursue your hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and of course, you always have Ann Summers till you find someone.

It will help if you put yourself in the right environments to meet the right person, recognise what you want and need. The most common and biggest reason why it’s so hard to fall in love is fear of commitment. Get out your notebook, write your checklist and go for it…. Life is too short to waste it…..



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Miss. positive