So this is coming from a females point of view regarding friendships with male friends, and why do they feel the need to overstep boundaries, when you haven’t encouraged any of it and made it clear you are friends.
Is it possible for a man and a woman to be just friends without one or the other getting the wrong idea? If you know that person is happy being on their own and trying to sort their life out for the better, why risk ruining that friendship.
Are men only friends with a woman because they are hoping to get a chance with her?. Why should we have to keep reinforcing the boundaries? And keep telling them no that you are not interested in any way, shape or form.
Boundaries get pushed because people tend to test the limits to see what they can get away with and what they cannot. Being mindful and respectful towards your friend surely must mean more than trying to hit on her.
I find it so bloody awkward when a male friend across this line when I have made it clear I’m not interested in the slightest, and they have known this from the start. As soon as I feel invaded, it makes me back away from this friendship as I don’t want to be second-guessing my every movement if they think it’s a come on.
If you have been on the receiving end of unwanted attention and a few messages and you are very blunt and they still carrying on, then it’s sad, but you have no reason to carry on the friendship if they keep crossing boundaries and make you feel awkward.
Unhealthy Boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others’ values’, wants’ needs, and limits…disrespecting your beliefs when you disagree with them. In my books, no means no, and if you can’t accept that, then we can no longer be friends.
Never sacrifice your needs to please another, or keep quiet, so you don’t hurt their feelings. Time is precious, and life is too short for any negativity of gown men ignoring you just because you have ignored his advances.
Never feel bad for being a good friend to the wrong person; it can be challenging to walk away from a friendship if you have been friends for a long time, but at the end of the day, if they thought that much of you, they wouldn’t have crossed the boundaries in the beginning.
Sometimes it’s good to take a step back and think to yourself, is there anything good coming out of this friendship, or is it more drama than you need in your life.