Moving On After Divorce
A divorce is a life-changing event; the strain of a major breakup can leave you feeling vulnerable. It’s one of the most stressful things you can go through. There are five stages of grief with a divorce that include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Usually, those who didn’t initiate the separation often spend a lot of time in the denial stage. It’s a tough call to make when you know you can no longer live with that person, and especially if you know it’s toxic, and if there are children involved, everything is harder. I honestly believe you should never stay with someone just because you have children together.
Parents in an unhappy marriage will often stay for the sake of the children, but this usually causes more damage. No child wants to hear their parents screaming and shouting at each other. Sometimes there are lots of factors involved while the marriage has broken down, you can’t make someone love you, and if someone doesn’t want to change their ways for the better, then it’s better to separate. There is only so much counselling you can have!
Being trapped in a marriage because you are financially tied to them, i.e., with a business or property, is such a pain in the arse because you know if you walk away, you have to start over from scratch while the courts sort out all the finances. Most cases don’t end amicable, and you have to choose to fight for half or walk away.
No matter what your situation is, if you feel you have to walk away from your marriage, then do it. Walk away if you think its time. Don’t stay together for your friends, family or your children. It doesn’t matter the reasons when you are done; you are done, when all fight has gone there is nothing left to give.
Signs of an Unhappy Marriage
- You live separate lives.
- Trust has gone
- No sex or affection is given.
- It’s toxic
Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals, and self-worth. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors and to the outside world; everyone probably thought you were the happiest couple ever, and because you have been pretending to be fine for so long, you end up in like a robotic cycle.
People with smiling depression often look happy to the outside world and keep their depression a secret. Some people work hard to hide their emotional pain. When you have had to pretend for so long that everything is ok when it’s not, this usually happens.
Buy your self some fresh flowers or buy that new book, clean your house, and get organized. Take time for relaxation. Self-love is about releasing negative thoughts and criticism towards yourself and embracing more loving thoughts and acts.
Time Is A Great Healer
Time is a great healer. Emotional pain will grow less as time passes. You may think your heart is broken, and you can never possibly love again, but in time you will. Time teaches us to forget and forgive and go beyond the damage that has happened to us. It is because of the time and passing of the time we can come out of the most challenging days in our lives and be able to be happy again.
Quote of the day
When love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, hurt you, or make you feel unwanted. It’s supposed to be a cure to all your worries.