When you find yourself unhappy with someone or something, pause, take a deep breath and remind yourself to accept that person as they are and to embrace their qualities.

Take a step back and think about how you are going to change the situation for the better.


Even if it’s for a few minutes, it doesn’t have to take up an hour of your time. The simpler, the better, it could be a morning Mantra or a favourite quote or a small prayer, and as long as it is positive, it will work.

Remind yourself often that where you are right now in this exact moment is not where you will always be. There is solace in knowing that this is temporary and it will pass.


Your brain is always anticipating what is coming next, whether it is a few seconds from now or months away. The more you expect something to happen, the more your brain will do everything in its power to make that thing happen.

Keep focusing on everything positive so that you keep getting positive outcomes. Don’t dwell on anything negative; just let it go so you can keep moving forward and reaching your goals.


When mediating visual imagery, practice, it is an excellent practical way to increase optimism. If you can visualise something you want to achieve or overcome, using all of your senses, your brain is more likely to believe it is possible.

Never underestimate the power of visualisation; you can accelerate learning and improve performance of all sorts of skills for most of us, visual imagery is essential for memory, daydreaming and imagination.


It’s the task of changing who you are and becoming the person you want to be. There are so many things people want to do with their lives. Set you’re long term goals and create a picture of where you want to be in a year.

To reach the long term goals, you have to do the smaller goals, so each month write down what you are achieving, so you are working towards the bigger picture. A powerful exercise for goal setting is to write a letter to yourself when you say 40 years older than what you are now while looking forward and visualising your life. What goals did you set? And the goals you want to achieve?  Use the answers to define your goals.


Make daily to-do-lists in the morning and tick off throughout the day as you accomplish each task, and this will confirm to yourself you’re capable of getting stuff done. Focus on one thing at a time you don’t need to overload your brain with ten different things.

Achievements don’t have to be big, but they need to show you that you are making progress towards your goals. I am a firm believer in taking little steps to get where you need to be, and even the smallest step is a good step in the right direction. 


Big Changes Start With Small Steps…