The Benefits Of Celibacy
Anyone who has decided to go celibate would have heard of every joke on Celibacy and people’s opinions. When you have will power to take a stand back and evaluate your life and what you want out of it, things will look a lot different. Sometimes,s people have meaningless sex because they don’t feel good enough or feel low and think that person is right for them when they are not.
I think we all have regrets about relationships we have had in the past or who we have slept with, and we are only human at the end of the day, and we make mistakes. You’re not broken because you choose not to have sex for a while; just you’re choosing what needs to be respected. All this social shame because you are not at it!
The most significant benefit of being celibate is self-control. You are having self-awareness and just focusing on yourself. If you are thinking about dating and our celibate, make sure you tell the other person from the very beginning as they need to decide if this is something they can handle. There is plenty of women and men out there who will endure a sex-less relationship, as long as they know at some point that sex will happen in the relationship so keep in mind the end goal and if they are willing to stick it out.
If anyone wants to criticise your decision, remind them it’s not the business. I think everyone has regrets over some of the people they have slept with in the past. We are only human at the end of the day. It’s best to find an affirming support system where you can be yourself without much explanation.
A good comeback for people with their opinions when they find out you are celibate is to give it a one-liner “my vagina isn’t dead, and we do have Ann Summers” (www.annsummers.com) that usually is a conversation stopper.” Just because you are not having sex doesn’t mean your humor has vanished and you do not have a life.
Sometimes the best thing to do is press the pause button while it might sound dramatic removing the physical side from dating it is more common than you think. Celibacy is not just a physical thing. It is spiritual, as well. Once you have made this decision, you can put all your energy’s into other things such as self-development, thinking and focusing on your self-purpose, and finding different creative ways to engage yourself physically and mentally.
Building a healthy relationship with yourself first is the highest step you will take. This is a journey to find out who you are and exploring all the different avenues. Find friends who support your celibate lifestyle. Reach out online, then talk to them regularly, so you have a support system. Below are some tips on being true to your inner self.
Surround yourself with other self-aware people.
Ignore anyone with negative attitudes or who wants to bring you down; avoid these kinds of people.
Learn to say no
Stand up for what you believe in, and you will gain respect
Note your goal progress
Determine the things you want in life
Immerse yourself in nature
Expose yourself to new ideas, people, and activities regularly
Try an online course about self-awareness
So whatever you decide to do, let your inner confidence shine, and when you are ready to date again, you will know, and it is ok that you took some time out to love yourself and find out what you want in life.